5 Things I Learned Turning 50..and I’m Just Getting Started
As I write this article, I still find it hard to believe I’m beyond turning 50…I’m 51! Raise your hand if you relate! (Yep, here I am again with BOTH hands up). It seems like just yesterday I was graduating from high school and cannot fathom I’ve been married for almost 30 years… to the same guy no less! Where DOES time go? Well, it doesn’t go anywhere, most people are so busy in their younger years hustling and raising families, they forget to slow down a little and savor their youth. We’ve all heard the saying “youth is wasted on the young” but I don’t believe that. I’m of the mindset “you don’t stop playing because you get old, you get old because you stop playing”. With that in mind, I’m sharing the five key things turning 50 taught me about life.
1. Turning 50 Taught Me Time IS a Commodity
Time is commodity we lose I can’t get back. I can lose money, a job or possessions but I can always replace them. The few months leading up to my turning 50, I started to think about all the things I wanted to do with my life that are still undone. There was a day it really sunk in chances are pretty good, I have less rides around the sun ahead of me than I have behind me. At that moment I began to view time as a commodity as opposed to something that “just happens” and just like everything else in my life, I learned my belief around it is what makes it so. In turning 50, I decided I wasn’t going to let time “happen” I was going to do all the things I’ve talked and/or dreamt about and just do them.
In a few short months, I rebranded and re-launched this blog/website, I opened eMBeeDesignsBoutique, t-shirt shop on Shopify, I created First Love Yourself in-person workshops (which has led into my Lifestyle Lab Online Coaching Program) and started writing a book about what my sled dogs taught me about living a life of passion and purpose. Whew…the book is on the backburner for now, but the outline is there and ready to go when I am.
2. Turning 50 Means I Have Wisdom
With age DOES comes wisdom. What is wisdom you ask? I shared with my coaching group in last week’s lesson about Stress Management the mantra below. It’s somewhat similar to the Serenity Prayer, but more succinct and easier to remember. Can it be as simple as that? Yes, I believe it is. There are things I can change: My thoughts, how I react to situations, my appearance, who I hang out where, where I go…the list goes on and on. There are also things I can’t change: the past, other people and what they think, and more. Wisdom has taught me I can’t change the past, it’s not my job to change people and a waste of time worrying what others think. In my younger years, I had this backwards: I tried to change others, instead of myself. As a result, there was a lot of drama in my life (see number 3), creating more stress. At this point in my life, I don’t want to spend energy on shit I can’t change, so I don’t. Period. Exclamation point!
3. Turning 50 Meant I Don’t Have Time For Drama
With the wisdom I gained by turning 50, I decided I wanted less drama in my life. There are two simple ways to let go of drama: 1. Stop creating it. 2. Stop allowing it. One of the lessons I teach the women I coach is “If drama is ‘following you’, perhaps it’s not ‘following’ you after-all.” How do I know this? I WAS this. I remember asking Mark “why do we seem to have a black cloud over our heads?” and one day it dawned on me it was because I was creating and allowing it. If you’d like to learn how to get started removing drama from your life, check out my article 5 Steps To Remove Drama From Your Life I wrote a year ago.
4. Turning 50 Meant It Was Time To Pursue My Passions
When I was in a kid, I wanted to be a teacher. In high school, I wanted to be a writer. Waaaaaay back then, we didn’t have the internet so I thought the only ways to “teach” was in a school setting and the only way to “write” was to be a book author or news/magazine writer. Thank the LAWD for the internet and new ways of doing! I first re-found my love of writing when I started a blog “Off The Beaten Path” as a way to keep in touch with friends and family when Mark and I lived in the bush in Minnesota with our sled dogs. Cell service was sketchy but with a satellite dish, we had fairly reliable internet service. When we retired from racing and moved to town, I quit blogging for about a year before I started the first Aging Youthful blog. It’s had a few transformations over the last five years, but my love of writing is still the same!
My passion for teaching has been rekindled with the creation of The Lifestyle Lab Online coaching program. I’m currently in the middle of leading 25 women through a 12-week group program. Once again I am using what I’ve learned in my 50 years on this earth to serve these women by helping them to learn to love their “perfectly imperfect” selves and find THEIR passion.
5. Turning 50 Showed Me Age IS Truly Just a Number
As Mark so succinctly says “if you think you’re old, you are.” Another passion of mine is inspiring women to NOT let their age define them and get out and do what lights them up DESPITE their age. If I let my age define me, I certainly wouldn’t have walked into a Strongman gym and hired a coach to create programming to compete in a competition in February. I believe turning 50 played a part as I was first introduced to Strongman three years ago when we lived in Florida. I went to a couple of “Strongman Saturdays” at the gym, but after a couple of weeks, I lost my interest. After I turned 50 I wanted to give it a try but I was feeling so crappy. As soon as I got out of doctor-ordered “gym jail” a few months ago, I was in the gym!
Ladies and gents, if you are feeling all of your birthdays whether they are more or less than 50, I urge you to start doing something to defy it. You don’t have to go to a Strongman gym and lift heavy shit like Mark and I do, just do something! It can be something as simple as stopping at a playground and riding a swing. Whatever it is, do it because someone will tell you you are too old to do it! Tell them what one of my most favorite people on the planet, 80-years-young, Luis Camacho, tells people who tell him he’s too old to do something: “I laugh and tell them just try to do what I do and I will buy you lunch…if you can’t, you owe me lunch.” (Click here to read Luis’ Aging Youthful interview…you won’t regret it!).
Have you turned the big 5-0 recently? If so, I’d LOVE to hear what it taught you about life. Drop a comment below, and/or on our Facebook or Instagram pages. (Be sure to follow me on Instagram…I like to have fun with InstaStories and share my love of Aussie butts. It’s mostly Takum’s backside, but I’m always on the lookout for cute Aussie butts!).
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